I met a guy that I was incredibly jazzed about. He was a friend of a friend, but we didn’t technically meet through her. He messaged me on Facebook, we got to talking and hit it off.
This was on a Thursday night – we messaged for a couple of hours and he asked if I wanted to get a drink on Friday night. Normally, I don’t accept last minute dates, but I figured why the heck not (I had just been ghosted by a guy and had just gone through the catfishing nonsense).
We made plans to chat on Friday and firm up Friday night. He had to watch his son play football so we weren’t going to meet until after the game. It reminded me of college – getting ready to go at 8:30 and not leaving the house until almost 9:30. We met at a local bar and spent FOUR hours together. It was such a blast.
We texted all weekend, the texts were flirty and fun, yet I continued to get to know him. He repeatedly said he wasn’t like other guys and so far, he wasn’t acting like the rash of idiots that I had been dealing with as of late. We met up on Monday night for a quick coffee date while the kid was at dance. Again, the conversation (and kisses) flowed. I couldn’t see him again that week, but the flirty and fun texts continued.
A week later, we spent some more time together. Things were looking up – I was even contemplating how soon was too soon to delete all of my dating site apps. The texts continued in the same vein for the majority of the week and then…almost crickets! Some texts, but they were short and to the point. No more flirting! I had a busy weekend so I didn’t ruminate on this latest development too much.
He messaged me on Monday very, very briefly and so unlike our previous texts. I said that I was having dinner with a friend, but asked if he wanted to get together and nothing. So on Tuesday, I sent him “the text”…you know the one. I am not just going to sit around and waste my time if a guy isn’t interested. All I got back was “just been busy.” I am no longer going to let guys control everything – I am not that kind of girl. So if this makes me crazy or pushy or needy, so be it. But I am not going to put up with the bullshit anymore.
I am still incredibly confused, and I don’t get what is going on. He hasn’t accepted any of my invitations (I have extended 2) to spend time together in over a week. It just sucks because I was, and still am, incredibly attracted to him. And I haven’t enjoyed being a guy this much in a long time.
So ladies, what should I do? My gut says to move on, but it’s really hard with this guy. I figure I will give it a bit more time and if nothing happens, I will give him the ol’ heave ho.